Recently I have been thinking about family. Both in it's current form, and what it might potentially be at some distant unknown date. The question I keep posing to myself is how will my future family be different then my current family.
Yes, those involved will be varied. Personalities, quirks, character traits, emotions, interests, past times, passions, goals... This mix will most definitely be different. What I cannot seem to deny being the same is my immediate intimate relationship with them, will all its ups and downs.
Just like with my current family, I will come to know my future family inside and out. As such, I will be faced with the same relational thorns that scar my relationships now. The seemingly insurmountable instincts of my sinful nature will still exist. There will be times when my guard will drop and snap, I will loose my temper, get frustrated, push away, and argue with those I love, just as I do now with my current family.
It is here where the conviction settles in with it's unsettling prods at my heart. If I am not willing to put an effort into resolving problems now, how different will it be in the future? If I am not willing to communicate and pursue a growing healthy relationship now, why would it be any different in the future?
If nothing else, today is excellent training ground for tomorrow.
Ephesians 5:15-17 Be very careful, then, how you live - not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord's will is.
My prayer is for the strength and wisdom to have healthy God pleasing relationships with my family, both today and tomorrow. That I will not look at my current relationship with my family as something that is temporary and passing, therefore not worth the effort. On the contrary, that I will invest myself wholly in my family, in relationships that will grow and mature as my position in life changes. That I will make the most of this opportunity with my family so that I will have the experience to have a joyful family of my own.